Today however, I didn't immediately say my pledge. Instead I complimented her on the special lady she is. My wife not only loves me as her husband but also for the submissive man I am. It's one thing for a woman to love the man they've married and yet another to love a submissive husband. I let Katie know how special and courageous she has been over the years in accepting my kinks, quirks and needs as a submissive guy, and taking control of me and our relationship as my dominant wife.
"What woman wouldn't want a husband who wishes a wife to feel free to do what she wants and does all the things you do to take care of me?" It's the response I always hear and I know her answer ahead of time because this is how she feels. Katie expects me to obey and she definitely wants me to serve in ways that allow me to express my love and devotion. She grinned and added, "And of course the massages you have been giving me lately are an added bonus. I'm living the life of leisure." I instantly got hard when I heard that! I love her feeling so entitled.
I didn't verbalize this thought but what submissive man wouldn't want his wife to feel this way and expect his wife to tell him exactly what she wants done? I for one love being that guy for Katie.
"But besides me taking care of you," I added. "It's more than that. You have done so much more to bring us closer together."
She asked what I meant and I proceeded to remind of the things I've appreciated. Like how she keeps me chaste, and how we make love - meaning we do so with her enjoyment in mind. I reminded her of how she's allowed me to kneel and acknowledge her as my leader and the one to whom I am accountable, for accepting the responsibility of supervising me, for controlling our finances so professionally and efficiently, and for doing so much more.
As an aside I brought up an instance in which I recently presented a small gift to one of her kids. When I gave it I said something to the effect of, "I asked your mom if it was OK for me to get this for you and she said I could....."
"I caught that," Katie noted with a smile. I commented how normal it now is for me to ask permission. "There is nothing wrong with me asking you if it's OK to do this or purchase that. It doesn’t even feel abnormal anymore. It's who I am and who you are. I've lived knowing you are the head and I'm the follower for so long all of this is now part of us.” She agreed and truth be told, she's right. This is who we are.
Talking with me while I knelt made for a wonderfully intimate time. As we conversed she often stroked my cheeks and by doing so I could feel the love she felt for me. I finally pledged and when I stood afterward I groaned in discomfort. My knees don't handle that position as well as when I was young.
"I'd like one of those garden pads for Christmas so I can kneel here more comfortably."
"We could keep it under the chair," she responded cheerfully.
I wonder if I'll be getting one, come December. I wonder if she'll want me to kneel before her more often whenever we talk like this. It really did make for a special time together this morning.
After Katie went up to dress, this song came to mind. How appropriate!
To those of you who are also submissive guys, I hope you make an intentional effort to express your gratitude to your wife for the special woman she is to you. There is no greater gift than knowing she is appreciated and I'm sure she would treasure your heartfelt words expressing just how much you do.