Wednesday, March 23, 2011
A Surprising Conversation
As soon as Katie closed said goodbye to our dear friends that had come over for dinner last weekend she turned to me and exclaimed, “Now there is something you can write about in your blog!”
We had just spent the evening enjoying a great dinner and socializing with Audrey and Mike. I had cooked the dinner while the other three chatted nearby on the patio. As Katie and Audrey spread the crisp, white linen tablecloth over the table, Audrey commented, “The queens need to sit at the heads of the table.”
“I think that sounds like a good idea to me,” replied Katie.
Nothing more was said on this topic until partway through dinner when Mike commented how he was in ‘knight-mode’. I asked what that meant and he told me how his wife Audrey was now in ‘queen-mode’. He went on to explain that knight-mode meant serving the queen, and although he could ask for permission to be in king-mode, the queen had the option to tell him ‘no’ or inform him he was done living in king-mode. What he was really talking about was dominance and submission.
Katie and I looked at one another and smiled as the conversation continued. Mostly we just listened to their thoughts on this subject and I kept asking Mike questions to keep him talking about his thoughts. I learned that Audrey, who is a writer wanted to write her next book on this topic; that things seemed to go much smoother for the two of them when the queen was in charge; and that the reason why the queen ruled was because she was better suited for it and Mike presented several reasons to support his premise.
Katie and I often joke about telling our friends about our way of life but never really gave much thought that we may indeed already have friends that also share a similar relational style. Audrey and Mike were not true dominants and submissives since they shift in and out of those roles, but they do tend to profess to the idea of the queen being the dominant more often than not. For me this was an eye-opening conversation as it implied that the D/s lifestyle is most likely much more prevalent than I had ever imagined.