Friday, May 6, 2011
Female Superiority – my take
I’ve been thinking about the phrase ‘female superiority’ for some time. Several blogs that I follow purposely affirm the superiority of women. Are women better than men? Tonight I read the complete two-part post in the Worshipping your Wife blog. If you have not read this I'd encourage you to do so. Here are the links to part one and part two. I found the letters by ‘Beckie’ interesting and stimulating but in the end she didn’t convince me that women are superior, although I do agree with many of her points as well as her views on men as they relate to caring for a woman. She puts forth the premise that women are not equal but superior to men intellectually, emotionally, physically, economically, academically, etc.
The question I keep asking myself is this: Is Katie my superior? If I were to follow Beckie’s logic I would need to replace the word ‘superior’ with words such as ‘stronger, smarter, wiser, more educated, more attractive, more mature, emotionally more stable, etc since those are the very things that Beckie advocates.
To me, the answers to those questions are irrelevant and here is an example why I believe that is so. I’m a professor; I am the ‘superior’ one in the classroom. My students do what I say, I’m the one that grades them, assesses them, and critiques them. According to Beckie, I am superior. Am I the smartest one in the classroom but am I the most gifted academically? No I am not. There are students that have a higher aptitude than I, although I know more about the subject matter for the course than they do. Am I the the strongest, the most emotionally stable, the one with the best verbal skills? The answer to that is most likely ‘no’ in all cases. I am one and they are many. The difference lies in the fact that I have the power and they don’t. That mere fact makes all these other variables a nonentity. I make the rules. They do what I say. End of discussion. That fact makes me ‘superior’ even though I am not superior to my students when singling out individual talents, abilities and skills
When I bring the topic back to Katie and I, there is but one variable: power, and Katie has it all. I gave it to her. She’s the ‘professor’. She judges me; assesses me; makes the rules; gives me the syllabus with all the requirements needed to ‘pass her course’. She is the final judge. Does that make her superior? I don’t know and it really doesn’t matter. I am not in love with Katie because she is superior and I am inferior to her in every way. If that were true, why would she ever be attracted to me? Don’t you think that she would want a man that is stimulating, challenging, emotionally mature, her equal intellectually, able to converse deeply, share honestly, having outgrown those adolescent insecurities? I do. I find that Katie fits that bill for me and I think if you asked her, she’d say the same about me.
Is she wise? She sure is. Does she have a perspective on things that amazes me time and again? Absolutely. Is she the more attractive one? I say she sure is and I hate to see other men’s eyes checking her out (makes me want to go up and deck them J), is she smarter than I? In some areas yes, in other areas no. Is she more talented than I? Again, yes and no, depending on what talent to which we are referring. I could go on and on but the point remains, all this is mute because it’s not about what Beckie says it’s about a power exchange.
And one more thing…. Beckie points out the best of the best but what if we are talking about those girls that didn’t graduate 1st but 100th? What if we refer to those girls that only go to a community college and not on to get their PhD? What if we are talking about….. Can you see where I am going with this? Dominance and submission has all to do with power and nothing to do with a comparison of talents, intelligence and other such qualities.
I’m done my rant and need to go take care of Katie. She’s calling me to massage her rhomboids and longissimus muscles. Oh my, Katie doesn’t even know those muscles even exist, but look who it is that is enjoys being the massaged nightly; the one who holds the power, not the more knowledgeable one in anatomy. Why, because she holds the power. Shes my Domma and me, well,….