Monday, August 15, 2011
The Mystery of Service Submission
I'm thowing this thought out for a response: In the D/s lifestyle do male submissives seek to serve because when they were young they were brought up to please their mother or other significant female in their life? Do male submissives enjoy pleasing and catering to their dominant partner because they have left home and now seek another female to please?
The desire to serve another by doing more rather than less goes against every instinct that humans have. In that light submission appears unnatural. By nature people chose to do less, not more. They enjoy relaxing, watching TV, going to a movie, going out to eat, taking a vacation, and other such events that require little effort or reduce the effort in ones' day. Individuals would much rather take the easy road than the hard one. So why on earth do men like myself like me ask a woman to dominate and cater to our desires to be service submissives? Why is it that we seek to do more rather than less? Why do we take the harder road and encourage our Domme to relax and enjoy life while we do 'her part' as well as ours? It makes no logical sense, yet there must be a reason. I can say without question that it pleases me when I serve, so much so that I want her to have me do more so she does less. But why? Is it because these tendencies were formed in our childhood BECAUSE we were taught to keep mom happy, or please mom? In my case I think it does, in part, but is it that way with you or your submissive (if you are a domme reading this)? If you don't agree with me, then why do you think you want to be a service submissive to your Domme?
I left Katie this morning and won't see her til Friday. I sent her an email requesting her to find ways to remind me this week that I am indeed her submissive and to assert her dominance even in my absense. I could have said nothing and enjoyed the few days we were apart but in reality, I wanted to send this request. I want her to tell me to do more, and to require me to show discipline in my life. To tempt me sexually yet restrict me from reaching orgasm. I ache for her to make my life more under her dominant hand. But why? Is it because this was how I was raised or is there more to it?
To those that have never posted, I would love to hear your response. You may not have an answer but your thoughts may be helpful to all.