There are so many positives to long-term denial that I am beginning to see. The key for me (and I think for her as well) is the tease. If the goal of denial is just completing the time or being her toy to use in that way, I have no interest. But to be denied and left wanting because she has taken the time to stimulate me and bring to surface the frustration of being so close yet never coming, well that is different. That type of attention is what I believe is producing all of these feelings of emotional and psychological closeness along with all of the physiological changes that make me want her so bad. If she can be that woman, and I do believe she is, well then maybe denial is where we should go. The key as I see it is that there needs to be a playfulness to all this. Katie needs to want to enjoy teasing and tormenting me. She's never really spent an inordinate amount of time teasing, to the point that she makes me beg but she is bending more that way since we've first began this journey.
Tonight I'm going to spend an evening with her. Maybe we will discuss this more openly. My hunch is that she won't make any commitments as she enjoys me orgasming as well and I wonder how she will feel not letting me do so for months at a time. For her I guess the question will be how much does she enjoy the orgasm and pleasure associated with me coming vs. the denial and the benefits she receives by denying me and having that type of emotional control over me.
If you were in my shoes, what would you suggest I do?