In that light, I've often thought about the role of mentors in the D/s community. Kathy in her Femdom 101 blog often speaks of Tara who mentored her during her early and formative years as she was introduced to the life of Domme. Tara was influential in Kathie’s development as a Domme. Tara changed Kathy's life and it is evident she did via the many credits she give Tara even today. A few months ago Kathy wrote the following in which she noted the value for the older teaching the younger: "For any women, who grew up in a vanilla type of house hold, learning to become a man's mistress is a challenge. ..... Also, for most of the women it is a journey that they make without the help of family or friends."
In athletics I often wondered why administrative staff never invested the energy to ask/require the seasoned coaches to mentor the younger ones more intentionally. There is so much that a new coach could learn from the elder over a coffee or lunch once or twice a week. The same could be said about Dommes that are new to this lifestyle. Periodic IM chats, brief phone conversations, email correspondences or periodic times when two or more women could meet to share and discuss their lives as Dommes could be an immense help to those new, on the fence, or questioning their own practices.
I understand that there is a wide variety of lifestyles in the D/s communtity but there are also basic tenets that seem to pervade them all - respect for the woman, discipline on the part of the man, selflessness, the transfer of power, resolving conflicts, etc I think it would be fantastic if women that are exploring this lifestyle could access the wisdom and knowledge of those that are well seasoned. They may not adopt all of what their 'mentor' uses, but they would at least be given the opportunity to sift through the various techniques, rationale and methods that older, more mature, women have found works for them. I understand that reading blogs written by Domme's can be of some help but there is nothing like having a woman that one can call. There's nothing like having a friend or a support group to serve the budding needs of this budding community.
Maybe someday others will feel more comfortable in reaching out and sharing with others as this lifestyle becomes more accepted and embraced.