This afternoon he came to begin work and he worked until almost 9pm. At about 5pm Katie wondered aloud to me if he was going to quit shortly since she was getting hungry. "Do you want me to start dinner?" I asked. She gave me the OK and off I went. Steve happened to be working in the adjacent room and was in and out several times. At one point he asked, "So you are the 'chef eh?"
"Yes I am," I replied as I smiled at his comment.
He watched as I put the meal together, offered Katie some wine while I was preparing our meal and watched me walk with plates in hand into the other room to eat. I'm sure he couldn't help but wonder why Katie sat in the adjacent room watching TV while I worked for 30-40 minutes alone in the kitchen. He didn't make any comments to us about that, but I'm certain he noticed.
Later, as I was washing the pots and pans he commented again, "you do it all now there, don't you?"
"I sure do," I responded once more smiling.
About an hour later I needed to get something in the dryer but the dryer was full so I stood in front of it and folded the clothes. Steve happened to walk by and commented once again, "You know, if I knew you did wash, I would have brought my clothes over for you to do."
I laughed and made some smart remark but inside I couldn't help but think what he thought about the way Katie and I interacted.
He has several more days of work here and I am sure he will be asking more questions about what he had seen or what he may see when with us again.
I didn't come out. I didn't tell him I was Katie's sub. I didn't need to. However I was pleased that Steve noticed. It implied that this is not the way he and his wife interact at home - and that is OK. I was glad that Steve saw that I do things for Katie and that Katie had no problem enjoying a glass of wine or some time relaxing in front of the TV while I did what was necessary at the time.
Steve is not the first person to notice we do things differently and I'm sure he is not the last. What seems to be the trend are the comments made by the men and women. Men make comments that indicate their surprise that I do housework and run the kitchen whereas women make comments indicating how lucky Katie is to have a man that treats her as I do and actually does cook and clean. One of these days a woman is going to start asking questions and my hope is that one of those conversations leads another wife to take charge of her man and assume the dominant figure.