Saturday, March 3, 2012
Pleasing a Woman Orally
To me the answer is simple. Its about giving. It's about wanting to please her. It's about wanting so bad to satisfy her. It is similar to the act of bringing her to orgasm by stimulating her with a finger. It's about love. I believe (for me) that it's because I am a submissive man and this is an extension of who I am as a submissive. I would go so far to say that all men that enjoy licking a woman’s pussy have these same submissive qualities, at least to some degree. Giving orally is a submissive act. The very position the man beneath or under a woman is that of a submissive expression. When a man is ordered, or offers to please a woman in this manner, he expresses those submissive inner traits.
I love licking Katie because I receive pleasure but not in the same way that she is experiencing. The pleasure that I feel is multifaceted. Being between her legs and surrounded by her body elicits a feeling of safety. I am surrounded by my Domme and that is a comforting place to be. Being between her legs is a place of visual pleasure; it's a place where I can watch her enjoy the gift of my tongue. Most importantly being there is one of the most precious gifts I can give her; something that she truly treasures - my complete devotion and affection. It’s a place where I can adore and look at the beautiful body before me and that gives me much pleasure. I love the taste of Katie as much as I love the feel of her soft skin against my tongue. It’s a place where I can gently or aggressively lick her most intimate parts. It’s a place where I can feel her passion. It’s a place where I can wrap my arms around her legs and hold her close as I touch her in ways that stimulate her to feel feelings of intimacy that are truly tender, and are only shared by the two of us. She gives me so much in return for the simple gift I give her.Oral sex is such a special part of our relationship. It’s one of the most intimate ways that a couple can share. I wish that Katie would have me please her in this way all the time but she chooses to do so often for some days and then not at all for other days. My role, which I am learning to accept increasingly more is to comply with her wishes. My life is one of giving and in doing so I receive so much more. There is a great dichotomy in the submissive lifestyle in which it often appears to the person observing from the outside that the pleasure is all one-way, when in fact it is very much a two-way gift that each gives to one another. Giving to her orally is one such paradox. It looks one-sided yet it is very much a gift that she gives me while I give to her.