Here's what I'm talking about: This morning we were getting up and Katie told me to move the cars so someone else could get in the drive and not block us. I happened to be making the bed and although I know that they would soon arrive, I continued to finish my chore. Katie could have intervened at that moment and told me to stop what I was doing and do what she had told me to do. That one missing sentence would have cemented her dominance as I was disregarding the immediecy of her request in lieu of my own wants. That's what I miss.
Here are some other examples to clarify what I seek: