Wednesday, December 12, 2012
I have read numerous times that Kathy from Femdom 101 has a list of rules that her husband has memorized and is expected to recall on demand when told to do so. I recently read on another blog that Queen and her Knight has a list of 12 rules that she is considering posting for her husband to see daily. I have been thinking about those two women and the reason why they both have the rules as well as expect their husbands to know the rules.
There is so much psychology to the Domme/sub dynamic. Personally I view this as one aspect of behavioral modification. They desire certain behaviors and are doing specific things to make sure those behaviors are present (or changed in the case of an undesired one).Tonight I happened to catch WBZ out of Boston, 1040 on the AM band. They tout that their signal can be picked up in 38 states and they have some interesting discussions on a program entitled Nightside. Tonight they had a world renowned mind-body healer, Deepak Chopra. I know little about alternative medicine but I do know that the power of the mind can be quite incredible. I only heard the discussion for a few minutes but he mentioned in one of his comments ‘you are what you think about’.
In the Bible, there is a verse that states, where you heart is, there will your treasure be also.All of these examples, the rules, the comment by Chopra, the Bible statement, speak to the power of dwelling on a topic, rule, idea or thought and the power that thought has in affecting behavior, values, and in the end, the person as a whole. Christian leaders talk about the importance of daily devotion. Deepak has a ‘three week renewal’ program on his website, Kathy has John programmed to spit out rule #4 or any other rule on demand, and I’m sure he follows each and every one exactly. A Queen and her knight wants to post her 12 rules so her knight sees them daily as a means of gaining his conformity to what she desires of him. All of this is psychology 101. It’s behavior modification. It’s understanding the working of the mind and spirit to mold one to the desire of another.
As I anticipate marriage and know that I will become Katie’s, I wonder if it would be helpful for me to know her rules. She has never spelled out for me ‘her rules to live by’. I know that she has expectations but for the most part she’s pretty lenient when it comes to when those things get done, just as long as they do get done. I mean, I know that I have chores x, y, and z to do. I know that she wants me to act ‘this’ way or not do ‘that’, but she’s never given me rules to follow. Should she? Would that be a good thing or a bad thing? Would having rules help her? If not, then why give them to me?I know that a rule provides a framework to live by. Kids need rules, employees have rules, society has rules, so should a sub have rules? The answer is most likely yes, now that I think about it. I will have Katie approve this post. I wonder what she will say. I wonder if she will want to bother coming up with rules. What rules do you follow as a sub? What rules have you given to your sub if you are a Domme?