Katie's gifts to me:
1. My chief love language, like Katie's, is touch and we do lots of it. She is very affectionate. She holds me, loves me, cuddles and touches me, fondles me, etc. My 'touch tank' is completely full due to the affection she expresses daily.
2. I've lived a life mostly functioning from paycheck to another. Katie now is the one responsible for our finances. I've transferred my employment funds so that they go directly into her account. Many write how 'submissive' it is to do that but for me it is an immense relief. She pays all the bills. She takes care of our budget. She decides what we spend our money on. She handles all that. Me, I just work and get my $40/month allowance. The rest is all hers to manage. I love that gift! I have no more worries. I know she is capably in charge of our finances. What a wonderful thing it is to just let go and trust.
3. Katie handles our social life. She tells me when we will be ging out for meals and when she wants to just stay home and crash. She decides if we will be getting together with another couple, or with a girlfriend of hers for a drink. Setting up social functions, planning outings, going to a movie, concert, etc is her primary responsibility. It's not that I don't have a part in this aspect of life and it's not that I don't suggest, but the majority of what we do outside the home is hers to manage. She does a great job balancing time with others with ample alone time for just the two of us. She is the one that now says 'no' when our schedules get overbooked or conflicts arise. Me, all I now do when offers to go here or there are made by friends is to let them know I will ask Katie and see if she wants to take part.
4. Katie does most of the shopping. On weekends we will shop together but during the week she will pick up miscellaneous food items, prescriptions, gifts, cards, or other things we need.
5. As a man, I am visually stimulated and Katie is quite attractive. She takes care of her body. She exercises several times a week and the dividends from her exercise program are all mine to enjoy. I love her body. Her body overwhelms me. It is a treasure to hold, cuddle, and embrace her. She feels wonderful.
6. Katie has accepted her position as the domiant partner. As her sub she gives me the gift of allowing me to serve her. I can sugar coat this but won't. What that means is that I do those tasks around the house that she doesn't enjoy doing. I cook, vacuum, and do the laundry. I open doors, I carry items when shopping, I clean the cat litter daily (and hairball vomits :), etc. We live unequally. It's how we both want to live. It's satisfying when she tells me what she wants (and it's frustrating when she goes ahead and does things that I could easily do for her). Those times are becoming less frequent as she is slooooowly getting use to speaking her mind and letting me know what she wants.
7. Katie let's me watch professional football games! She is not a football fan. She really doesn't understand the game. She doesn't know the strategy of the game, yet she will sit with me and watch a game on a Sunday afternoon. Now we aren't tied to the TV every Sunday but if we are home and I ask, she will most always turn on the TV and watch a game with me.
8. In my last post I commented that Katie denied me yet another day, even when I asked if I could cum. Yet I am satisfied sexually because we both enjoy sex. We are close often. Everytime we are it fills me. It draws me close. It reinforces to me that I satisfy her sexually. I now enjoy sex both for the feelings that I feel but also because our times of intimacy satisfy her. They are mutual gifts we give to one another but she has given me the gift of learning that I can receive fulfillment by pleasuring her, even when I don't get to feel that momentary elation that comes with ejaculation.
9. I am an outdoor kind of a guy and Katie is too. We aren't hardcore and I've definitely softened as I've aged but we enjoy walking. We love to camp. Someday I'm hoping to convince her to try a backpacking trip with me. I need to find a trail that has flush toilets and showers as that would make selling this venture more appealing to her. :) I know that if I can get Katie in the backcountry to see sights that few ever see that she will be sold on this. It's a hope and it would be an incredible gift for her to give me and one that I think she would really enjoy doing.
10. Katie admires what I do prefessionally and she is very supportive in that regard. She often compliments me and reminds me of how good I am with what I do. I know those comments are sincere and I do appreciate knowing that she views my skills and talents with admiration.
11. Katie is my best friend. She is my partner, my love, and she takes time to be with me lots - like all the time. Often I need to take long trips and Katie will talk to me on the phone for hours at a time if she is free. Once I had a 15 hour drive home after working all day and she stayed up the entire night talking to me until I arrived. If she is free, she enjoys joining me on trips, even if it means that she has nothing to do and has to find things to occupy her time for the majority of the day. I love her company. We've always enjoyed being connected at the hip, so to speak, as we get lots of time to talk, share and just enjoy one anothers' company.
I'm sure there are other gifts but those came after just a few minutes of thinking about her. As you can see, I have it pretty easy as a submissive man.