Even then, there was something that I wanted and to make a long story short I told Katie all about my research as I was certain that she had a little of this personality buried deep within her genteel nature.
When she first told me she wasn’t a woman that liked body hair and told me to shave everything from the beltline to the legline I took it as being kinky and an expression of her dominance. In a way it was kinky but realy she just wanted my body to be more to her liking. Now when I shower and shave to stay smooth for her it is nothing more than something that has become part of my morning hygiene. It’s what I do. When Katie and I decided together that chastity would be the best thing for me to curb my masturbation and teach me that my penis was for her enjoyment rather than my own, I took that too as being kinky. I would agree that wearing a device is not the norm. I only know if a few men that wear them and I know that only because of the blogs I read. I’ve never met a man like me. But now locking up has become more of the norm. It’s not normal yet and it may never be normal but it sure isn’t the kinky thing to do like it was when I first locked for her. I could say the same for being denied, for becoming her service submissive, for looking first to her needs rather than my own and a myriad of other changes that have happened since we began living this way.
Maybe in hindsight, all of the above wasn't kinky at all. Maybe all it was were a few changes Katie wanted to make to make me more enjoyable, more focused on her, less self-focused, less selfish, and more disciplined. Now she may not have gone about making these changes the way a 'vanilla' married woman might have with her man but what she did worked and she is pleased with the changes.
I guess what I am getting at is that the focus of my writing has changed. Back then it was about us but it was also a lot about me and how submissive I was or how dominant she was. I don’t know that Katie was ever really ‘that’ dominant. It’s not her. Now I find myself writing more about my love for her and how living as her submissive has enhanced our love for one another. One might argue that those feelings have nothing to do with D/s and everything to do with a new relationship that has not been battle tested. That may be true but I am certain that moving from a relationship of equality to one where she runs the show has done nothing but help us become very close.
Part of my desire is to open the eyes of others that stumble, as I did, onto this blog. I hope that they will read and learn as I did when I first learned of men submitting to a wise and loving woman. I hope that couples, but especially women, will see that they can live quite normally. I want them to know that a dominant woman doesn’t need to be like the leather clad women that probably come to mind when they think of the word dominant. I would hope that they can see that they have so much to gain and that the primary gain from a woman’s perspective is intimacy. It’s what (I think) women crave. They want a relationship. They want conversation. They want touch without feeling the pressure to perform. They want to cuddle. They want to know that they are wanted. They want to feel once more that their husband looks at them with the same idyllic feelings he had when they first fell in love. All of that is possible (and all of that is more likely to happen) if a couple decides to embrace a femdom relationship.
So that’s where my head is right now. This and similar topics are where my mind wants to go – at least for now. I’m not saying that my way is the only way. What I am saying is that Katie’s way works for us and I see no reason why our way, or a variation of it, won’t work for other women.
I have but one regret, and that is that I never knew about this life years ago. If this lifestyle is of interest to you, I invite you to read other similar blogs. I invite you to stop back often. I invite you to email me using the email on the right sidebar. I would love to engage others. I am a normal guy with a normal life and if you decide to initiate a conversation and don’t like what I have to offer, I hope we will part as friends. Have a wonderful day.