Sunday, June 30, 2013
Home Repair Decisions
The other day Katie and I heard a loud ‘crack’ coming from the back of the house. After some exploring we found that the back deck was a few inches lower on one side. After some exploring under the deck we discovered carpenter ants had eaten away at the 2x10 floor joist under the bay window to which the deck was anchored. I did some temporary bracing to prevent it from collapsing any further with cinder block and some 2x4s and went in to talk to Katie.
Of course this event happened the day before the two of us were to leave for the wilderness together. We discussed possible solutions and I told Katie, I really didn’t know how to fix this one. She gathered names and phone numbers from a few carpenters her neighbor had used in the past and had me call each to set up a time for them to come and give us an estimate.
We left home as we had planned and ten days later, Katie flew home while I remained in the Northeast. I called one of the men she had asked the day I dropped her off at the airport to discuss the deck issue. I wouldn’t be back for another few weeks and he asked if I wanted to meet with him personally.
"No, that’s really not necessary,” I replied, “Katie makes all of the final decisions anyway and she wants this done right. She's going to write you the check when you are all done, not me. I don't write the checks.” I added.
He laughed and told me that he understood as is wife most often did the same in his home. Together we chuckled, continued our conversation and I set up a time for him to come to the house when Katie would be home. He did and the two of them talked about repair options. She chose the option to have it done right, rather than patch the problem with a bandaid solution.
So the deck will be fixed. Hopefully it will be repaired properly and the cause of the problem, wet wood that invited the carpenter ants in the first place, will be resolved by installing flashing at the base of the siding. I love that Katie leans on me when we have issues such as this. I love too that she has the confidence to make a final decision after we talk about our options. Although the house is ours, I view it as hers. I do so because it keeps me focused on the primary goal of my life – serving her; obeying her; submitting to her. For me that mindset works.