I happened upon the below video and associated article about the decision by a wife to submit to her husband.  What struck me was how similar her thoughts, perspectives and lessons learned are to what I've learned over the years.  She indicated how she asks more questions, and holds her tongue more as some of those traits of a submissive.  Whether you believe in the Bible or not is irrelevant but the book written is based on a woman's desire to follow a biblical perspective of submitting.   The article will take you some time to read and the video is 3 minutes long so I will limit my writing.  Enjoy.