Friday, January 10, 2014
Is That Normal?
Yesterday morning I came into the room and found Katie. She looked up at me from her seat and said simply, “I’ll take my breakfast now.” She smiled politely and I left for the kitchen to get the two of us some food to eat.
Later that day I wrote an email to an old friend, her name was Jill and she loves the New England Patriots. Tom Brady specifically. I decided to call her Jillzele in my email as Tom’s wife is the supermodel Gizele Something or Other. I commented to Katie that I’m hopeless, having got my ‘teasing gene’ from my father. She responded by saying, “at least got his submissive gene as well.”
A few days previous, Katie made a remark indicating how much she likes keeping me locked. When she makes remarks like these, it’s never done to humiliate me but rather simply statements of fact.
I thought about those remarks and about the surrounding feelings she often causes to surface when she makes those comments. The realization of a phrase came to mind: I am not a normal man.
I mean, how many men take time out of their day a few times each week just to write a blog and publicly share their thoughts and experiences of their marriage knowing it was probably far different in some respects than any other marriage on their neighboorhood?
How many men sit, out of necessity when they use the toilet – because their wife keeps them locked in a plastic or steel cage? Mine happens to be made of steel.
How many men are permitted to make love to their wife but not to enjoy the same ecstasy that she experiences? And in that vein, how many men submit to their wife, only making love when she wishes and furthermore, lets her be in charge of not only when, but in what position, for how long and with a mindset of pleasing rather than receiving pleasure?
How many men said the word ‘obey’ when they married and meant it?
How many men have no claim to the income they earn, but entrust it to their wife to manage?
How many men vacuum, meal prep and clean up, wash, etc. without being told to do so because they know that she expects her spouse to do it for her?
How many men enjoy corresponding with other submissive men via email because it serves as a support to the life they live?
How many men advocate obedience, respect and submission to other women and do so by telling other young men to treat the female gender as one to be treasured and looked up upon?
How many men are proud to be known as a submissive man?
How many men hope that they can influence other men to submit and even more, encourage other women to take control of their man and marriage as a way to greater intimacy, marital harmony and order?
I am not normal. Are you? Is your husband?