Thursday, July 17, 2014

iWait: One Requirement of the Submissive Husband

Some time ago someone mentioned the word ‘waiting’ in a post and it got me thinking about a small yet very important part of my life as Katie’s submissive.  I wait. I wait for all kinds of things. I wait for her to make a decision when the answer (in my mind) wants to leap from my tongue. I've learned to hold my thoughts and let Katie decide on her own time. 
I wait when she tells me we will be leaving at 8 pm and I am ready at 7:45.  I wait without telling her to hurry up.  I wait when she wants to sleep-in on a weekend even though I have been ready to get up an hour earlier.  Instead, I cuddle behind her or lay perfectly still if she wants to cuddle me.  I wait until she is ready to rise and don’t disturb her sleep.  I wait when we go shopping.  Often I tag along a step behind, letting her browse the clothing aisles, appliance department, the food shelves, the pet supply area or wherever it is we happen to be shopping.  I don’t grab her hand and pull her along. I don’t look at the time on my cell in a way that signals my desire to leave. I simply enjoy my time with her, talk about what I see, point out things I believe she’d like or that I feel would look good on her and enjoy the moment. 
I wait while she uses the laptop. I don’t ask to use it but wait for her to finish checking emails, writing responses or browsing the web.  I wait when we watch TV or sit outside on the deck at night.  I don’t tell her I am going to bed. I wait until she is ready.  And when she is, I clean up behind her and head up to join her.  I wait when she drives, even if she’s driving 60 in a 70 mph. I don’t point at the speed limit signs. I don’t tell her she’s driving too slow. I sit in the passenger seat and enjoy the ride, doing what I can to make her as comfortable as I can.  
I wait when she works part-time for a friend. We travel together even though this is all Katie's thing and not mind.  After arriving I am free to do what I want, usually bringing along work or a laptop to write letters or blog posts while waiting for her to finish.  Normally she will tell me when it is that I am to be back making sure I am always a few minutes early so as to not make her wait on me.   I wait when we go out for a meal or out with friends. I wait on Katie. I make sure she has the better of the two seats to sit in so she can socialize easier with others. I wait until she gives the signal that it is time to ask for the bill for our meal or that it is time to leave a social function at a friends home. Until that signal is given I wait and be the best company I can for my Mistress.

Waiting has become one of the joys of my submission.  Waiting makes a man look to his Mistress for direction. Waiting helps a man learn that she is more important than he.  Waiting teaches patience. Waiting reinforces a man’s dependency on his wife. Waiting is a tangible sign that she is the one who is most important, is the one who leads, who is the one who is in charge, and by waiting the submissive demonstrates his obedience to the one he serves.  

Katie is my Owner. She now uses those words every now and again and I love hearing them every time she does. Because she owns me, because she is the Mistress, because she is the dominant partner she deserves to be waited for and waited on. Waiting on is a topic for another post but waiting for is something a woman (all Mistress wives for that matter) deserve, and it does a submissive man well to learn this important skill of patience and focus on the woman he has committed his life to serve.

I’m Hers

PS: Katie read and approved the post and then told me of a song I wasn't aware of. It's by Brad Paisley and this version has the one and only Andy Griffith in it.  Here's the link  and here's the words. They brought tears to my eyes thinking about how privileged I am to be waiting for my woman!

Sittin' on a bench at West Town Mall 
He sat down in his overalls and asked me
You waitin' on a woman
I nodded yeah and said how 'bout you
He said son since nineteen fifty-two I've been
Waitin' on a woman

When I picked her up for our first date
I told her I'd be there at eight
And she came down the stairs at eight-thirty
She said I'm sorry that I took so long
Didn't like a thing that I tried on
But let me tell you son she sure looked pretty
Yeah she'll take her time but I don't mind
Waitin' on a woman

He said the wedding took a year to plan
You talk about an anxious man, I was nervous
Waitin' on a woman
And then he nudged my arm like old men do
And said, I'll say this about the honeymoon, it was worth it
Waitin' on a woman

And I don't guess we've been anywhere
She hasn't made us late I swear
Sometimes she does it just 'cause she can do it
Boy it's just a fact of life
It'll be the same with your young wife
Might as well go on and get used to it
She'll take her time 'cause you don't mind
Waitin' on a woman

I've read somewhere statistics show
The man's always the first to go
And that makes sense 'cause I know she won't be ready
So when it finally comes my time
And I get to the other side
I'll find myself a bench, if they've got any
I hope she takes her time, 'cause I don't mind
Waitin' on a woman

Honey, take your time, cause I don't mind
Waitin' on a woman


  1. Waiting, I hadn't thought of that as being a significant aspect of submission. Excellent observation!
    Great song lyrics too!

    1. Thanks Mr. Bill, and yes, the lyrics are great. Hope you take the time to watch the video. Andy does a great job playing the wise old man in it.

    2. Just watched the video, that was wonderful!
      And being in female led relationships, we can all relate so well.

  2. Yes, Queens were made to be waited upon and waited for.
    I always made certain that when we are going somewhere together that I am ready before she is. As you said 15 minutes is a good idea to be dressed and waiting with the doors locked and things put away.
    Then as the time approaches I frequently let her know that "I will be in the garage standing by your car door..." for when she is ready to leave...

    1. Surrendered Husband,
      Did I say I make sure I'm ready 15 minutes before 'it's time"? It hardly seems that is the case for me as she has me busy doing things that usually keep me working until it's time to leave. I do make sure I"m the first out the door if possible so I can have the car door open and the car keys in hand when she walks out. I love standing there and waiting those few seconds with nothing to do but wait for her to appear.

  3. Over the weekend, we lost our family dog. We eventually found out that he was in "doggie jail" and we could do nothing until Monday. We all decided to go for a walk. My One put his keys in his pocket. When we arrived home, there were no keys. We got in using our .... childs assitance...... but My One was without a house key.
    I remembered to leave the door unlocked for him a few times, but then Thursday we had a busy day. I thought My One was working later. When I finally got out of our last appointment I texted him. I discovered he'd been home for some time. Oh, all right well, we will be home soon. Completely forgot he did not have a key.
    When we arrived home, there he was, sitting on our front porch, waiting, patiently. He never texted me, he did not want to bother me, he didn't know if I was somewhere important. He just waited. He waited over 2 hours. He just waited.
    So to read this post today, just made me smile.
    I am sure Mistress Katie, appreciates your waiting, just as I appreciated My One's patience yesterday afternoon.
    Mistress WillowFae

    1. Willow Fae, Then the youtube video of this song is quite appropriate for your One. I'm glad he understood his place - even if it was an oversight on your part in which you assumed he had a key. And besides, it's rare that one gets to just 'be' for a few hours. It's good to rest, to contemplate, and be like the old folk watching the sun set from their porch on a hot summer day. As much as I'm sure he was glad to see you arrive home I would think it was good for him to rest and wait - and think. Loved your story.

      I read it to Katie and commented - Submitting sure does teach a man manners. I think it does indeed

    2. I rather felt that way too. Oh how lucky he was to just sit for a while. No one to pester him. No diapers to change. No anything. Just rest. I was rather jealous!

  4. What a great way to show love to the significant women in our lives. I am going to implement some of the waiting practices I've read here, and I added this to my Reminders app, "Always be ready before She is, Always wait patiently."

    Yesterday, I tested out Surrendered Husband's technique and mentioned to my wife, "I will be waiting by the car for you ...", and Donna quickly stated, "No, you will wait here by my side!" I learned that my Queen prefers that I patiently wait nearby and then escort her to the car. I love that Donna is very clear about what she wants!


  5. Scott, your Donna sure sounds fun! I like her style. She basically said, "screw that I'm Hers guy. I want you by my side. Now get there!" LOL I like that. But being early is never a bad thing - whether it be standing by the car door or waiting to escort your wife out and into the car. Either way works in my book, but then again, Donna doesn't read 'my' book :)

    Have a great week!


    I wonder why this incredible man stopped blogging after publishing for just six months in 2008? He hits the nail again and again, I wanted to stand up and cheer! Such intelligence, insight. I sincerely hope he found his soul mate, lucky lady!

  7. Waiting suits me now. I can watch, I can wait. But it is true it always wasn’t that way. We have all been on that bench before, burning up, feeling the same way, just as he did at the beginning of the video. The only comment I would like to make to him is that the experience of blind patience waiting for someone was quite a bit more elevated before cell phones entered the picture; I am sure Andy would agree on that.
    So, as for the waiting you spoke of, I guess it is a newer trait of this lifestyle I hadn’t really paid attention to before you blogged about it. I did think about it last night, though, as I sat on the bed next to her, watching her log in to her laptop that I had just unsnarled for her . It is a different attitude that allows you to watch her pick which one of the printer icons on the ‘fax and printer window’ to use even though you had it all set up for her months ago that you wouldn’t even want to go in there to choose one. Keep your mouth closed and wait till she says “that’s right, you put a direct print link in there for me - that’s cool ”, and smile. A short time after that, I moved to that end of the bed and massaged some argan oil in between her toes. Just time well spent.

  8. Postscript--
    The last line of the previous comment was supposed to be written as:
    “A short time after that, I moved to that end of the bed and massaged some argan oil in between her toes while she finished entering the final notes on her laptop. Just time well spent.”
    As it turns out now it was even better than that for me. About two weeks ago my older riding mower blew a piston rod and died so I have been getting all the exercise I need with a push mower, which eats up the better part of a Saturday just to get it all done. Little did I know she was also shopping last night on the laptop as well with the result of telling me this morning to go pick up a new Simplicity Broadmoor (I love it) this Saturday. I guess I’m happy now in a lot of ways!

  9. Very good post. Yes, i wait alot for Wife. Need to do better, too!
    cd sara

  10. cd sara, I'm glad you wait for your wife and glad you see the need to do better at that task. YOu know, recognizing the need to do something is 90% of the battle. Now you know, now you can address it. And please continue to add to the discussion of future posts. Its comments from others like yourself that benefit all of us that read various blogs.