If you take the time to read those comments there is a common theme running through most. That theme is that none of these men do all the chores. I noted how Katie and I spent a couple of hours on our hands and knees scrubbing the kitchen floor together, then shopped and ran errands together. Yes there was a substantial amount of time when we were apart and I’m sure that while I worked during those hours apart, she too was busy working on her own projects. She didn't sit around doing nothing. She wanted to help. And that is the key phrase here “she wanted to help”.
Those that commented shared similar stories. They spoke of their wives as being pragmatic; they talked about them doing work even when their husband had asked them not to. They chipped in and helped when help was needed or simply because they wanted to.
For those men and women considering a wife-led marriage or female-led relationship, I believe the comments made share a bright spot-light on what a real loving femdom relationship is all about. It's about two people living in harmony with one another. Yes, someone is in control, and yes, someone leads while the other obeys. But the more profound point here is that it's not relationship in which one does everything in the other does nothing. It's not a relationship in which one stoops to the other. It's not a relationship where the woman looks down at her husband, viewing him as inferior. It’s not that at all. Rather, in so many ways they are equal. They are equal in the respect they share, the love they share, the values they share, the appreciation they share, their camaraderie, companionship and so much more. Their relationship is normal in that it contains all those fundamental traits found in any healthy loving relationship-with the one exception, that "she" is in charge. The FLRs described by my dear friends convey that they too function as a team. They work together for the common good of their marriage; they love and respect one another, and help one another when help is needed.
I think the second take away point from the commenter’s is the implied harmony in their relationship. I don't know how you function within your marriage or partnership but if you don't live in a FLR my guess is the man sometimes becomes irritated and angry when he is told what to do or how to act. I know that's how high acted and responded prior to Katie taking control. I know that's how my male friends respond because they talk about conflicts within their own marriage and share thoughts of this nature. If this is you, take the time to read the comments carefully. You won't find these men talking about conflict in any of their posts – and they would never flaunt how they stood up to their spouse. Rather you'll find the opposite. You will read statements describing how beautiful their relationship is, how well they work together, how much they adore their spouse as well as mentioning of a newfound harmony that wasn't there before.
What man wouldn't want to live with a woman like that? What woman wouldn't want to live with a man in that kind of relationship? That's the beauty of femdom-or maybe better stated, that is the possibility that exists in a Femdom relationship. FLRs is not about whips and chains and shackles and leather thongs and kneeling. It's about love and that's what is expressed by each of those that commented on this post. These men love their wives.