Wednesday, July 23, 2014

The Busyness of Returning from Vacation

Katie and I returned home after a nice vacation away. It was a chance to see children, parents, siblings and relatives as well as getting a bit of work in that I do every summer.  It was also a time to rough it by camping for a few days and that experience is another post in itself.

The time away was relaxing and fun but once we got home, the time of leisure ended and life once more became a blur of jobs and tasks that needed doing. Unpacking a car, organizing 'stuff' before putting it way to make finding it next year easier, doing laundry, cleaning the car, catching up on bills and mail, watering plants, planting plants we brought home, etc. To say the least it was a busy day of getting organized.  Katie had also planned on having seven women friends over on Monday (just 48 hours after getting home) and that meant an entirely new list of things needing done. Vacuuming, scrubbing floors, cleaning the kitchen, purchasing drinks and food and generally making the house look pristine for the Ladies was the order of the next two days.  I don't think I've done so much house work in a long long time.

I kept telling Katie that if she just gave me a list I'd take care of it and she wouldn't have to do work but that was not to be.  We scrubbed tile floors on our hands and knees together. We shopped together and although she kept adding to my list I knew she was busy for most of the time I was working somewhere inside or outside the house. I've come to the conclusion that I need to let go in my attempts to have her turn everything over to me. It’s not who she is and it’s apparently not what she wants me to be. Once Katie makes a decision she doesn’t change easily and wanting to make sure the house got cleaned was something she wasn’t going to leave to chance by not pitching in and helping at least some of the time.  And it is nice to work with her, functioning as a team, with a common goal in mind.  That part I enjoy immensely.  I wish she wouldn't feel the need to work as much and simply turn me loose to work. I have quite a bit of energy left in the tank and love doing things for her.  Being very goal oriented there is something in me that wants her to dare me to do the impossible.

I will say this, she is my Mistress – something I asked her to be almost over four years ago. It has taken her a long time for her to feel comfortable in that role.  In a few areas she took to being the Mistress wife easily but in most it took many months before she came to the point where she accepted and enjoyed her ownership of me and was able to direct me without feeling bad or having to do chores herself.  The process has been slow but it has been steady. I asked her just the other night how she felt comfi-wise and she commented that she feels mostly comfortable now telling me what to do and making sure I do things that will please her.  But she did note that there are still areas that don’t feel normal yet. 
The weekend before the Monday arrival of the ladies was replete with instances where she told me "I want you to do...." At one point on Monday morning I wanted to get the Kitchen counters scrubbed and cleaned yet I didn't get to it until several hours later because of all the "I need you to do X" tasks that kept me busy doing one thing after another of Katie’s growing list of new chores.  Each time they came I couldn't help but smile as I tended to her to-do list knowing I had my own to complete - the one she had given me early that morning.  It is during these times when I realize that I really am here to serve and in that vein I've woken the past few mornings telling her, "I will obey you, I will serve you and I will intentionally show you how much I love you."

Monday evening came. The house was clean and organized when the ladies arrived. Katie was able to relax and I was invited to sit on the deck with them and enjoyed a few hours of listening to their stories as they got caught up on one another's lives. When they left I cleaned up while Katie relaxed watching the news. When I climbed into bed she was already there - naked and waiting for me.  I knew what her nakedness meant. She expected me to massage her. I did and did so with pleasure. What better way to end our day. And I fell asleep knowing I could sleep in. How sweet she is!


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30 comments:

  1. Service is its own reward. Great and you know you are loved.

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    1. DP always love you stopping by. Thanks for the comment and observation

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  2. I just love your words IH!

    Indeed, how sweet she is indeed!

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    1. Thank you Arizona man! Stop by again. Hope you picked up another vibe so as to not hear '48 hours' the next time you go on vacation LOL

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  3. Anonymous, I don't know why but I feel like I"m getting my chain yanked by you. If this blog is so great (I don't know as I haven't had time to read it) I think you should contact the author. Any comment will be forwarded to him and you can then engage in a meaningful conversation. But since I haven't read the blog I can't comment and because this is the second time you've posted a link I'm beginning to wonder if there is more to your comment than the words - thus the removal of it. If I am wrong I apologize ahead of time.

    Hope you stop by again and can add to the discussion others have also contributed. Enjoy your day.

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    1. Yanking your chain?! I'm truly disappointed. I'm a dominant woman and a fan of your blog for quite some time. I was simply mentioning another great blog on the topic of FLRs - is that now allowed in this forum? His now defunct blog HerProperty is full of intelligent insights and it would have been interesting to know if you or any of your readers or fellow bloggers are familiar with this blog, Since he no longer blogs, I doubt he would reply to an email and couldn't find one anyway.

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    2. Ma'am I am so sorry. If I had know you were legit I would have never deleted your comment. What I want you to understand is that I receive comments that go directly to my email but are not posted. These comments are screened by google when 'robotic' or 'mass comments' reach blog sites. They are advertisements and always contain links to other sites. When I saw your comment it made me think that this was one such advertisement that made it past the firewall of Google - some do every now and then. And because I was in a hurry I didn't take the time to explore the link, deleted it, and responded as I did.

      I hope you will forgive me and I will post the link for others to explore in the near future. I have it saved.

      Again, I do apologize and hope you understand why I did what I did. I meant no disrespect.

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  4. That sounds like a beautiful day or two.
    My Queen will jump right in and do work along side me while telling me what other things I should be doing at the same time. It's kind of fun, but it reminds me of how wonderful she (and they) really are how they jump right in without being asked to help us.

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    1. SHusband, It was beautiful when the women came and the work was over. Although parts of the work was fun - especially as I kept getting more 'oh, I need you to do...." comments. It didnt necessarily make the work more fun but I did get to see that side of Katie that I love so much - her confident side that is willing to be open and honest with me - and take control of our home with me at her side. (whew, that was a long sentence).

      Glad your wife helps you when you need it as well. (my comment to Wishful4 below applies to you as well.)

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    2. It took me a long time to convince her that doing the house work was no longer her responsibility.

      At one point I became defensive about having her step in and take 'my' jobs away from me. That caused some friction that I needed to avoid.

      So I learned to anticipate any job she MIGHT want to do and try to have it done before she jumped in whenever possible and make sure that I thanked her sincerely when she did step in and do things.

      "Oh Honey! You don't need to do that! Here, let me..." Was often a good way to get her to go relax and follow her own interests. Other wise is was "Oh Honey! Thanks SO much! You know you really don't have to do this..."

      Women love men who are 'considerate' and thankful

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  5. Boys, let me jump in for a moment.

    I hate the term queen or princess. These terms imply a woman who doesn't want to do anything but sit around all day eating bon-bons or whatever. I am a mistress wife. I don't mine cleaning, I don't mind working in my own house. From time to time I might even clean a toilet even if it does offend the man of the house.

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    1. Kathy, you are a normal person! You even clean toilets..... every now and then? Good for you. As to your comment, I think Surrendered Husband wasn't using the work Queen in the way that you interpreted it, even though I understand your point. His qualifying statement of his Queen jumping in and helping along side of him, leaves me (at least) with a different feeling as to what he meant.

      btw, I love your chastity discussion on your blog. I think it is good for women and hope several have read and considered the thoughts and opinions you posted as well as the varying responses.

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    1. How timely your post is. We have company arriving tomorrow and my spouse said we are cleaning house today. As you, I long ago asked if she would just relax and let me do the cleaning and chores. She flatly refused, saying that she enjoys us working together and that's what we did today. She assigned me the tasks she wanted me to do and she did those that she wanted to do. Now she is happy and relaxing on the porch having a glass of wine knowing that the house is ready for our guests to arrive. Years before chastity and FLR, she would have never asked me to help clean house much less tell direct that specific tasks be completed. She has come a long way. One additional thing that has happened with us is that I am not locked in the device as much as I used to be. Maybe it's just a Summer thing. What amazes me is that, although I sometimes still can't resist self pleasuring from time to time, I still serve her in much the same way I did when I was locked continuously. I somewhat miss the device and often wish she would go back to using it more, especially when I fall short. Like you, it makes me feel special when she does.

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    2. Wishful4, Hope all and all went well with the company that you hosted. Glad too that the two of you could work together. That is the real expression of what a 'relationship' is all about - two working together for the benefit of both.

      As to chastity and you not having an appliance, I hear you. In some ways I love it when it is on but must say that I did enjoy my month of freedom when she permitted me time out of it. Obedience is the key, in my book, and stands above chastity, even though I see the wonderful value and protection that little tube provides when it is locked on.

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  7. I really enjoy your blogs, thank you for taking the time to do them.

    Like you my fantastic wife is also my Mistress and although I like to do the chores for Her; I run my own business which means that there is not always enough hours in the day. Mistress is a down to earth person who happily will get on with the jobs that need to be done. I guess that ivory tower is ok in dreams but not in reality.

    Keep up the good work
    m

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    1. m,
      It's been a while since you've stopped by but glad to know you enjoy the posts. And I enjoy writing them as well. As to your comment: I think most dominant women respond to needed work that needs to be done the way your Mistress S, Katie and others that have commented on this blog - they pitch in and help when help is required.

      And isn't that the way it should be!

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  8. Way to work your tail off for your Katie IH. I'm sure she loves your devotion to her.

    I have the same inner struggles with wanting to everything for Donna and feel that I have failed if I see her doing her own laundy or other household tasks. When that happens, Donna will act annoyed and state, "Scott, why I am I doing my own laundry?" She doesn't mind doing those household tasks, and wouldn't do them if she didn't want to, but I feel like I let her down by not having it done already. Might be that male ego, Superman thing kicking in, but I want to do everything I can to make her life more rewarding.

    Whenever we work together on projects, we don't bicker or squabble like we used to. I no longer question how she wants things done, and I don't complain if I am overloaded. I just joyfully and expediently get it done her way!

    Scott

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    1. Scott, you last paragraph is so telling - it speaks to one of the wonderful outcomes of living in a WLM - arguing and bickering becomes things of the past. They don't happen because it takes two for those kinds of conflicts to occur and as a submissive, it's not your, nor my, place to ever go there. And how nice it is when we don't...... and when our wives 'go there' its up to us to keep our traps shut and embrace their decisions.

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  9. Sounds like a marvelous day! I too get great satisfaction in doing what my Mistress asks me to do for her. I wish that she would do it more often, with chores or demonstrations of devotion and obedience.

    Reading this post, how completely focused on serving your Mistress with house and other chores makes me realize I have a lot more I could be doing for mine.

    Sometimes life gets busy and I get distracted from what's important. But the funny thing is that I feel good making her happy, so staying busy serving her happiness is directly adding to mine :-)

    Maybe I should tie a piece of yarn around a finger to remind me of the proper priorities.

    Thanks for sharing your experiences with us!

    jen

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    1. Jen, I'm sure you do more than enough without feeling like you need to tie a string around your finger to remind you to do more. And besides, I would think your Mistress loves having you sit beside her and spend time together just as much as she loves having you keep the house in order. Balance is the key.

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  10. I think I know how you feel somewhat. When my wife and I first began our FLR I could tell she felt somewhat reluctant with me doing most all of the chores but that was three years ago. Now she has no problem with having me do all the laundry ,washing floors,ect. She still loves to cook for the family and will help clean the dishes sometimes. She will sometimes say we need to get this done but now I know its not we it means me.Her leading our marriage is natural for her now but did take some getting use to at first. Always enjoy your blog. R R

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    1. RR,
      your final comment made me smile. It seems like your wife and my Katie sure have a lot in common. Both seem to be a bit reserved and hesitant to enter a wife led marriage but they both seem pretty comfortable leading one now that they've had a chance to experience the benefits of it.

      What really humored me was your wife's use of the word "we". She, like Katie, always mean we can mean you! You got to love it. And of course they probably both say it some sweet nonthreatening way but with the tone that is completely uncompromising.

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  11. Massaging is great but what about sex? Do you guys have sexual intercourse? Does one want it more than the other? I am just curious.

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    1. Yes we do. As best I can remember we had it this morning, last Wednesday, last Sunday and the previous Friday. We are quite sexually active. Massages are something that Katie loves as well and they usually happen in the evening. I tend to not talk about our sex life quite as much as that is not the primary purpose of the blog

      Concerning who wants sex more, i'm a guy, she's a girl :-). I want it all the time but as her submissive it only happens when she wants it.

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  12. Please, what is the name or title of Katy's blog, so that I may find and read it ?

    Maria K

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    1. Katie does not have a blog. I'm sorry if I said something that made you think that way.

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  13. "And it is nice to work with her, functioning as a team, with a common goal in mind. That part I enjoy immensely."

    There is something to be said that when a wife is in charge in the marriage a common goal is clearer because both partners are participating in a way with there being no (or less) competition undermining things. And it may work the same way in relationships where the husband is dominant. My wife sets a goal or task for me, or in some cases for us both, and I go along. She wants input, but she is making the ultimate decision. Sometimes it may be that I need to make a decision about something (for example, my wife can't direct me on how to cut trim or install some kind of building material since she does have that skill), but she sets the task and checks the work, and sometimes helps. As far as routine chores, some of them need to be shared. We go to a place in the mountains. Since I can't take care of two places, much of the work is shared although some tasks are, by her decision, mine. I guess where being submissive comes in is that she normally sets and gives priority those items on the "to do list" and I follow.

    In following your request in "Ooops", I am signing off with FL.

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    1. "She, like Katie, always mean we can mean you! You got to love it. And of course they probably both say it some sweet nonthreatening way but with the tone that is completely uncompromising"

      Forgot to add...
      Yes, this is often true as well. When "we" make plans to do certain things, it is really "you". I am well aware of my wife's tone in certain matters...
      FL

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    2. FL, Pleased to meet your acquaintance. I am sitting next to Katie responding to your comment and my comment to her had to do with how surprised I am with the number of comments on a topic that had to do with the business of doing work. It really surprised me and if you have read the previous posts by other men, the theme of their comments are strikingly similar - they all love working for their spouse, their spouse loves to see them working and like you noted, things go more smoothly when the wife is in charge.

      I'm glad to hear that in your situation, 'we's' really mean 'you'. It's a great place to be although to be honest I love it most when she says 'you' and clears up any possible misunderstanding.

      Stop by again!

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