Thursday, August 21, 2014

Three Reminders

I wanted to write a short post highlighting three instances that Katie brought to my attention that reminded us both that we live in a WLM that Katie firmly controls. The first happened on my way home from work. I was traveling and so I was some distance away when I received a text from a man whose wife wanted to consult with me personally about an issue that related to what I do. We went back-and-forth texting. I told her that I would be home at 7:42 PM and could meet with her then but first had to clear that with Katie. Katie returned my text with a phone call and told me I could not meet at that time because I had left for work that morning with chores undone. Specifically, she told me I had laundry that needed to be put away and the kitchen needed to be straightened before anyone came to the house. Humbly, I returned a text to our mutual friend informing her that I could not meet until 8 PM due to some items that needed to be finished at home as soon as I got home.

When I arrived I quickly buzzed around putting things away, wiping counters and tidying up before Katie gave me the "thumbs up" that our house was presentable. I few minutes later her girlfriend arrived and after taking care of her concern we all relaxed on the back deck and enjoyed her company.

The second reminder came on a Saturday night when we went to a nearby town to hear live music. (As an aside, one of the unexpected joys of moving south is the availability of live music that can be found almost everywhere.  It’s something that is not nearly as common in the north and I have grown to love listening to a wide variety of music genres and most all have been free to attend!)  But back to our evening out: as we sat enjoying the band singing oldies they eventually played a well known song by The Spinners. When they sang the words of the chorus: "Whenever you call me, I'll be there. Whenever you want me, I'll be there. Whenever you need me, I'll be there. I'll be around" Katie leaned over and said in a volume loud enough to be heard above the band "that's your song!" 

I love it when she states the obvious as I know that she too is making connections during her day that she is the head of our home and I am there to tend to her needs as she wishes.

Finally, one of the things that occupy a large amount of Katie's time anymore is babysitting her granddaughter while mom and dad work. Anna spends several days every week at our home and although she is barely a year old she probably sees Katie as much or more than she sees her parents. She is just starting to talk and recognize words, associate words with things, mimic, and becoming more mobile. To observe a child at this age is truly a marvel. They are learning words, exploring, connecting the dots and require constant attention because of their new-found mobility. One day while I was at work Katie asked the question "where is pop?" (That is what she calls me) Without pause she looked into the kitchen! Yes even our little granddaughter associates me with being in the kitchen preparing meals, cleaning up, cleaning counters, doing laundry and folding clothes, all of which take place in that part of the house. 

There is no submission or dominance that is tied to her innocent eyes looking for her grandfather in the kitchen but her response does speak volumes with where I spend an inordinate amount of time while I am home with her.

I could go on and on with examples but will call it quits for now. Love all of you that read, enjoy, and take the time to respond to the words on these blog posts.

I'm Hers

27 comments:

  1. We may not be able to turn the whole world FLR/WLR, but here and there we can be role models to girls and boys as you and Katie are to your granddaughter. Little Anna may well be female dominant in the making: I love it, thanks for sharing, ImHers!

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  2. Dominant Woman here again...

    I came across an article from 2009 about women paying for sex and was struck by this:

    "...[male] escort, Andrew Rosetta, has written a book about his 10-year career called Whatever She Wants and he says women come to him for the chance to be selfish.
    Sitting in his plush flat in London's West End, which he owns outright thanks to his sex work, he recalls a solicitor who used to be a regular client.
    "She's very articulate, bright - she's a partner in her firm. But after session three she told me this guilty secret: that she'd really like to take advantage of Superman."
    "I would arrive at her house in a suit. I'd go along in glasses; underneath my suit is a Superman outfit and we would go through this role-play.
    "She would at one point bring out a green rock on a chain which was kryptonite - that makes Superman begin to lose his power. And of course when Superman loses his power, he's available to be taken advantage of."

    This woman is simply naturally dominant, but instead of finding a submissive man she pays an escort to dress up as Superman and make him weak (i,e. make him submit) with a chunk of "kryptonite".

    However, I don't judge her: it was only a few years ago that I realized that I am perfectly normal after learning about FLRs/WLRs.

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  3. I forgot to include the article link:

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7914639.stm

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  4. My friend returns to comment again :) Thank you! Who knows if Anna will be a dominant woman. At this age I think all children - both little boys and girls - act as if they will be when they grow up. They all are self serving but they are also such fun. They have not been negatively impacted by our world yet and so I am soaking up my time with her - just being there to enjoy, and play with her at that oh so simple level..... like turning on and off the light switch or reading the same book - again - and again. :)

    Thanks for sharing about the male escort and the woman that loved to dominant superman. In a way it is so sad that she can't have a 'real' man to enjoy as she wishes - that she can't be like you - or Katie or so many other women that have realized and acted on their dominant desires. Please stop by again!
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  5. "Specifically, she told me I had laundry that needed to be put away and the kitchen needed to be straightened before anyone came to the house."

    Hi,
    I heard something similar when my wife and I were preparing for friends to stay over night in the country this past weekend. It was a reminder to me of who was in charge. I asked to visit a neighbor who wanted to show me a large metal shed he installed and had finished into a workshop. My wife said, "Absolutely not. You need to clean the shower in the guest bathroom and when your finished pick up some things at the store." I might have looked a bit annoyed at her for a moment, but she let it slide. A submissive "Yes Dear" from me was the right response.

    FL

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    1. FL, so what did you tell your friend when you didn't show? :) I'm sure he was probably looking out the window every now and then for a few hours thinking, "where is FL?" And then he thought, "oh yea, he has to do whatever his wife tells him" :)

      On a serious note, thanks for sharing YOUR story. Stories tell a ton about underlying values and themes within a particular relationship. Yours speaks volumes, as I'm sure my stories do as well.

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    2. I visited the neighbor next day when I saw activity around his house. I told him I had to take care of a couple of things for my wife, but we never had a firm appointment to begin with. As for doing what my wife says, it is pretty much how it is. I try never to complain, as my wife initially indulged me wanting her to be in charge (and later chastity) and she does treat me well. She has dominant nature, so it seems to fit our styles/personalities. As for your story, I rather like the song which reflected some facets of your relationship. It is interesting when things happen that are reminders.
      FL

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    3. FL, do others know that you wife runs you and your home? Even if just a little? I know that most of Katie's friends know that she makes the decisions but I'm certain the phrase 'WLM' or 'femdom' has never entered their minds when they view our marriage.

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    4. I'm Hers,
      Thanks for asking; others do not know. I would say our relationship is like you own relationship in that regard and friends know my wife makes the decisions, or that I check with her on things. I would admit that close friends (a man and his wife) that my wife and I have have known for many years "might" assume more merely because they are so close. They have seen me do things like tidy up after a meal we had together, ask my wife about doing something, or turn the dishwasher on multiple times. But it would be a stretch to assume they know our relationship as "femdom" or "WLM" terms. Probably not. FL

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  6. Hello IH,

    I love reading about those instances that remind you of your place in your marriage to Katie. Our time on this earth is very brief, so it's great when we learn to relish those moments of love and life in balance, even when they don't involve panties and paddles! Seems like you and Katie are embracing your roles, and are quite proud to serve each other accordingly.

    Have a great weekend!

    Scott

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    1. Thanks for the thought Scott. I can say that Katie and I are both very happy, very content and very much in love. So much of that probably has nothing to do with my submission or her leadership but rather because we are so compatible. I do believe the D/s relationship does make something great even better.

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    1. Kathy, I never thought about doing work/chores for Katie in that way. It may warrant a post by either you or I to explore that thought in greater detail :). For whatever reason, I do live to please my Katie (and she is mine - my Mistress Wife) and when I see her doing things anymore I can't help but jump to my feet and tell her, "I can do that for you."

      Your last paragraph makes me sad. You are alone and without your husband. I was driving home from work last night when Katie commented how she isn't looking forward to the spring when I spend a day each week away. From how you described John's work overseas I'm sure there is many a night the two of you are apart. How nice it would be if you could travel overseas with him.

      Always love you sharing thoughts - either here or on your blog.
      Blessings!

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  8. I think it's great that Katie recognizes your WLM in the way she does. My wife and I just celebrated our 3 year WLM anniversary .I had already bought her a card but the morning of our anniversary she had put a card by my cell phone that really meant a lot that she acknowledged our anniversary like that. As for grandkids I have 3 wonderful ones. My wife will tell them to be carefull with their drinks because grandpa just washed the kitchen floor or he just washed all your clothes. She will say this in front of our kids as well as the grandkids. Our WLR is something we our proud of and really don't try to hide any thing... R R

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    1. Thank you for stopping by RR. I read your post to Katie this morning and commented, "RR is a good guy. I like him." And I do. I think we are a lot alike. Your wife sounds similar to Katie.... she has embraced your WLM yet she is graceful about it - meaning she doesn't throw it at your children but rather states the obvious. Katie likes to use the phrase 'he takes care of me' rather than say 'I am his Mistress Wife.' Both are true but the former is less confrontational and draws fewer questions from others.

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    2. Tell Katie thanks for the complement. It is couples like Katie and you that my wife and I know we have made the right choice with a WLR....RR

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  9. IH, you know you are one of my favorite bloggers because of posts just like this. Your depiction of a FLM or FLR is exactly what Mistress K and I strive for in our marriage. Not some amped version of porn-ish imagery and BS. Love, admiration, desire, respect, loyalty and trust are the anchor points in my relationship with my beloved Mistress Wife and I know it is for you and Katie.

    Keep writing brother. Keep loving your Mistress and I know you'll stay happy n your life.

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    1. I'm trying to come up with new ideas. I don't know how long I can last but for now..... I still have more to say. Thanks for the koodos

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  10. Haven't written in a while as I did not have anything on point to your recent posts and did not want to go off topic. But yesterday S blistered my behind with Her wooden spatula and sitting on it today is all the reminder I need of my position in this marriage. However, earlier today S permitted me to worship HER buttocks and in the middle of this electric feeling I remembered the title of your hiking post in early 2013 called The View From Behind. I am a slut who worships butt and that title of yours still makes me smile. (S's slave)

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    1. S's slave, Nice to have you stop by and share a great story. You know, all I remember about that post from 2013 is that the view from behind was truly a nice one - and still is. I hope your spatula bottom heals well - and is ready for the 'next time' she uses it :)

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  11. Hi IH. A simple thing like reaching under the bed and hand brushing the cane. I just felt good and grateful to be under my wifes discipline. And with friends last weekend she corrected the man who made a sexist joke with " we both know who is the bitch in my ffamily " and winked at me. A joke within a joke. I loved her for it. Stevenz

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  12. Hi Stevenz, Glad you could relate in your own way to the examples I mentioned. It is those constant reminders - the cane and the joke, within a joke, in your case that helps keep both you and I on the straight and narrow. I hope you can stop by again and contribute to future discussions.

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  13. The reminders are the part that stays with us; the part that stays real. You can be 100 miles away on some boring part of the interstate and suddenly the thought of that string of words or actions will fill your mind up and make you smile and be contented till you finally get where you are going. I guess I know that because I sometimes catch myself grinning while driving and quickly tone it down before the guy in car next to me notices. I realize that must look strange from his vantage.
    You also miss the cues when they are not there. All is fine with the two of us; we still love being together, unfortunately it is just a little more traditional than some times in the past. Yesterday’s incident involved me taking a really lazy vacation day at home with the rain as an excuse for my lack of doing little of anything productive. Productive between us is code for me not being a lazy ass. After she returned, I was asked what I got off my list today because the lack of production was glaring. I came back with the “not too much” answer, which really deserved something, but all it elicited was an “oh well, if that’s how you want to be” response with a disconnected exit from the room. I guess I kind of knew what I wanted, but it wasn’t there. It really left me flat. Too much like things used to be.

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    1. You know JT, I always love what you had to say and although this story has kind of an anti-climactic end to it what I took away from it was that just as you had a bla day where you didn't get much done - and weren't on your submissive game - by getting things on your list done, I believe your wife also had a bla day as well by not being on the top of her game as your dominant wife and making you feel submissive.

      And that my friend may be a topic for another day as we all have our good and bad days. I have those too, btw - and so does Katie. Have a great week!

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  14. S used the spatula again yesterday and I am quite sore as I sit here. In response to "Stevenz" S usually reminds me every couple of days that "You are my bitch" or "I own you". My response is usually "yes Ma'am" or "yes Mistress". (S's slave)

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