Sunday, September 7, 2014
I Don't Call her Mistress - all the tiime
Some time ago I wrote another submissive man that I highly respect. I don’t know him personally but know that he has lived as a submissive far longer than me. He is also older than I and I trust that with his advancing age also comes wisdom. I wrote him about my desire for more overt dominance on Katie’s part several months ago and he gave me some things to think about. What I didn’t expect was a comment regarding how I addressed my wife when I referred to her. He mentioned that both he and his Mistress thought I should refer to her as Mistress Katie and not Katie.
At the time he had mentioned this I had been intentionally making an effort to refer to Katie as Miss Katie, Mistress or Mistress Katie for the past month. I didn’t use those terms of endearment when I wrote my letter to my blog friend. A day or so after giving his comment some thought I decided to ask Katie if she preferred me using those terms exclusively. Her answer was ‘no’. Asking why she told me that she likes it when I address her in non-femdom ways. I have several and they range from sweetheart, to baby, to sugar, to Katie-girl, to Katie, Miss Katie and the femdom ones stated above.
I don’t know how others refer to their dominant partner but for Katie, she enjoys me not being so formal when I use her name. Katie is a southern girl and enjoys me using those traditional southern phrases so common to this part of the US. She also likes it when I use names that I came up with early on in our relationship.
Personally I enjoy referring to her as Miss Katie and Mistress but I also love saying things like, “Sweetheart, can I get you anything?” I mean no disrespect when I address her in these non-submissive ways. Furthermore she prefers that our relationship be vanilla when we talk. Yet I fully understand the comment the man I wrote made. His Mistress wants him to address her as such – Katie doesn’t. We both are being obedient to our wives but doing so differently. To me, that is the heart of the issue. Both he and I have pledged obedience and we both bring honor and respect to our respective wives by doing as they wish.