Another routine that she has established is setting out panties for me to wear. Our routine each morning is for Katie to shower first. The day before I am to drape a clean towel and washcloth over the shower rung and place a folded pair of panties for her to slip into after she dries herself. When Katie is dry she will choose to either set out panties for me or choose not to. A panty on the counter is an indication for me to put them on and lock up before I leave the bedroom when dressed.
I mention this because so many men comment about having a wife or girlfriend that feels awkward about addressing D/s issues overtly. Katie is cut out of that same mold but she has slowly changed as the months and years living as the dominant partner have lapsed. Yet she is silent in many respects and almost never brings up in a discussion on a topic that has to do with her as my dominant or me as her submissive. However, she is quite intentional in reminding me daily that I am not her equal. The Daily routine of setting out panties is but one way that I know that she is thinking about me as her submissive husband and I love that.
Another way that I know she has accepted her position as the dominant one has to do with her use of D/s humor. The other day I about sliced the end of my thumb off with a razor knife while trying to make a small repair at work. I ended up getting the severed flap glued on at an Urgent Care facility. I made a comment that night about my need to protect the thumb from bumping into things. She giggled and when I asked what was so funny, she said that I could use the Jailbird cage to keep my thumb safe. We both laughed, but the bigger implication has to do with her comfort level in teasing me about my own predicament as her locked submissive. She loves me locked and is no longer hesitant to make sure I stay that way.
The other night we went to an outdoor concert to listen to one of her favorite local bands. They played 70s 80s and 90s beach music (e.g., Cool and the Gang, KC and the Sunshine band, Marvin Gaye, Earth Wind and Fire, Michael Jackson, etc) for three straight hours. They don’t waste time between songs talking but rather immediately move from one tune to the next. They are great and Katie loves dancing the entire time. She positioned me behind her during the concert to make sure no one got into her purse. For a good portion of the evening she ground her sweet butt into my caged crotch. I know she was enjoying the feel of it against her. She also made sure that my hands remained on either hip –not that I mind feeling her move to the beat of the music. For me it was fun seeing her in her element and enjoying me all the same.
I mention some of Katie’s ‘ways’ to bring to light the power that a small act can have on a submissive man. The dominant need not invest lots of mental or emotional energy to maintain the fact that she is the one who controls, decides and leads. But when she does express her dominance, they go a long way in conveying the message as to who serves and obeys who.