Tuesday, December 16, 2014
We Must Be Boring
As a follow up to the last post.....
While Katie and I were watching Dr Phil (to those of you not in the USA he is a counselor that made it big on the Oprah Winfrey show many years ago. Now he has his own show on TV and discusses topics of psychological interest – often interviewing individuals/couples experiencing various life issues. In any event, the couple that he had on this day had a marriage that was on the rocks. They yelled at one another, told the doc how one threw the other out of the house - locking them out, and then pleaded for them to come back a day later, yada yada yada….
The doc looked at his wife who sat in the front row and said, “Honey, we must live a boring life. All we do is watch Law and Order reruns.”
The audience laughed and it made me think: here we are doing the exact same thing. Katie and I were sitting at home on an afternoon with nothing to do watching the Dr Phil show – and actually enjoying our time together! Today I left her a card before I headed off to work. It was a simple card that said “my favorite place to be – is anywhere with you.” There was a boy and girl sitting side by side on a tree branch looking all lovey-dovey at one another. I knew Katie would like it. As for me, I like to add personal touches to cards so I wrote on the inside of this card things like: taking walks, snuggling in bed, eating out, watching our grand-daughter, gardening, watching TV, going grocery shopping, driving in the car, etc….. I filled the card with examples of everyday things that make up our everyday life.
Katie and I, like Dr Phil and his wife, and probably you and your significant other are boring people. Our days are filled with routine. I work 5 days a week. I do the same chores. On weekends we pretty much do the same things. When we go out to eat, we generally go to the same few places every time. We hang out with our same group of friends. We make love in the same positions. We are creatures of habit and routine – and – we – love – it! We have found the boring things we do together are fun and fulfilling and bonding and keep us close. Now we also have a bit of femdom that overrides all of those routine chores and events that makes our love for one another even deeper – and things a bit more fun, but we really don’t do lots of eccentric things. Those things – trips, vacations, concerts, holiday traveling, theater, are ‘treats’ that break up the routine. That’s both good and bad. We look forward to them and we are generally glad to come home where we can get back to the routine that is so comfortable.
These next few weeks will take us out of that routine as the holidays do every December. I love Christmas – mostly because I get off work for several days and have more time to hang out with Katie and watch Dr. Phil reruns while he is on his own vacation spending time with his family. To hang out with her – my best friend is a treat indeed!
Merry Christmas to all.