"Other than in our dreams where we live as 24/7 doormats and whipping boys, life would not be so great to be an actual slave and be beaten into submission all the time. Nor would your Woman’s life be all that great if she had to micro manage everything to did and punish you without ceasing in order to get you to do it.
A far happier model that I have found is to live in anticipation of her every want and need."
Saturday, February 28, 2015
On Becoming a Surrendered Husband wrote a post recently in which he referred to a study stating most all men have fantasized about being dominated by a woman physically. He transitioned his discussion of this topic into one possible alternative to living under the cruel hand of a dominant woman by stating the following:
I enjoyed the post and agree with him. He made the comparison of a submissive tending to his dominant in much the same way a servant would a queen - that he would be proactive and perform expected duties without having her supervising his every move. And that only makes sense. Any employee works with the same mindset. Students do as well. Responsible children act similarly with respect to their chores. In each situation each person does what is expected of them without their "superior" standing over them to make sure they are doing every specific task expected.
When Katie and I first contemplated a FLR relationship we read the short book Uniquely Rika. She made a similar point - that the submissive should be proactive by thinking one or two steps ahead of his wife and avoid her having to instruct him.
May I suggest a counterpoint? As much as I strive to be the person that takes care of Katie without her having to stand over me I have to admit that I do enjoy her expressing her dominance. For example, I just paused writing this post because Katie called me from the other room and told me to bring in the plants on the deck as the temps will fall below freezing tonight. I answered, "yes ma'am", immediately got up and completed the chore. It only took a minute and it's done. Now I'm back writing but I welcome those kinds of statements. They are good for both of us - good for me to 'jump' when told to do something and good for her to know she can make such commands and expect results ASAP.
I'm sure there is a fine line to tread that both the dominant and submissive need to tread as we both need to be 'active' participants in this lifestyle. Maybe in time I will feel differently. Maybe in time I will simply become her slave and do my job without needing (or wanting) to be told or reminded of things needing completed. But I'm not there yet. However I've moved along that continuum quite a bit since we first began and Katie has as well. What use to be questions are now statements. What use to be 'can you do.....' has progressed to just 'do....." And I love it!