Saturday, May 30, 2015

I don't want to title this one

Last week Katie and I visited a nearby plant nursery. An author was signing books and we stopped to talk and had a few questions answered. He mentioned to Katie he’d be speaking the following week at a local library.

“Put that in your cell phone,” she said. “I might want to hear his lecture.

On the way home from work I heard that one of Katie’s favorite groups would be performing this weekend and told her about it when I arrived. I learned more of when and where on the web and relayed the information.

It’s June and high schools are graduating their senior classes. A friend of Katie’s daughter was one of those graduates and the friend invited her over after the ceremony on Friday evening.  I happened to work late that night. That evening I got a call informing me to head there unless informed otherwise.  Ten minutes before I arrived I got the call, “I’m on my way home.”  And so I changed plans and met her at the house.

While at work on Friday I got a text, “make sure we get up by 8:00 AM. I knew it had to do with hearing the author speak. I set my cell alarm accordingly.  We did go to that event and that afternoon I learned we would be going to the concert on Sunday afternoon.

That Saturday afternoon we took a nap, since we were both up until almost 1 AM. I wanted to have time to be intimate but even though we both napped naked, it was not to be. “I want to go out to eat,” she said. “Where do you want to go?” she asked me. I gave her a few suggestions and then learned that we’d be eating Mexican.

Besides me admiring her for being so free to make decisions I find the fact that she does to be so healthy.  Just before we rose from our nap I said, “And Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed. I guess that could be interpreted that they were willing to be completely vulnerable with one another, or that they had complete trust. What a healthy relationship they must have had. What a healthy relationship we have.”

We do have a healthy marriage. We are open and honest and each complement the other well. We are alike in many ways that enable us to share many interests and opposite in an equal number of ways that fuel our femdom marriage. All those little examples stated above illustrate her dominance, my submission and the mutual respect we share as Mistress and sub. 

I hope you all enjoy your week.

I’m Hers.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Doing the Religion Thing Again

I got an email from a great guy. I looked back in my inbox and realized we've spoken to one another as far back as 2012. Back then he had hoped his wife would accept his submission. She loved him doing chores but accepting him as her submissive was something that made her uncomfortable and so she never did.  Just recently I received another email and the real crux of her issue was revealed. She didn't know how to mesh Scripture with female dominance or male submission. He asked me for perspective - which I am by no means a guru in Scriptural knowledge and insight.  Nevertheless I'm going to take a stab at this topic again.

Here's where everyone gets hung up.... On Ephesions 5:22-23. It reads as follows:
22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church

OK, so there you have it. Case closed. Crime solved. Book finished. Race won. Right? Well let's consider one more thing.... context, context, context.

Here is the full passage. As you read it, look who is being told again and again to love her to the point of dying (sounds like submission), to respect, to lift her up (sounds like submission to me). Read in vs 31 who leaves who. Who goes to who? (hmmmm). And then read the very end..... who loves? who is told to respect? In verse 27 who is doing the work of making sure the other is cast in a positive light? (again, sounds like submission to me)

OK, I'll let you read.

21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

So that's the New Testament version of who leads, who follows.  In the old testament there is also a verse that his pulled out and shoved into the face of women. It's in Genesis where God first creates Adam and then says 'I'm going to make you a helper".... often interpreted as a lesser being. At least that's how I was taught and I bet you were too if you went to church.  The word helper in Hebrew is EZER. You can do a google search and explore it further if you wish.  I found 21 uses of the word in the Bible and listed them below, capitalizing the word HELPER or HELP (which is EZER in Hebrew). Please note in almost every situation who is helping who. It's God helping us. God helping Israel. God coming to the aid. God coming to the rescue.  So the question that needs to be answered is this: If God is HELPING (Ezer) isn't he the more powerful one? If so, then how does one reconcile Genesis 2: 18 and 2:20 where women are coming to HELP man?

Pardon the old English. I cut and pasted from a website. Again, I'll let you read.

Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an  HELP meet   for him.

Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an  HELP meet  for him.

Exo 18:4 And the name of the other was Eliezer; for the God of my father, said he, was mine  HELP,  and delivered me from the sword of Pharaoh:

Deu 33:7 And this is the blessing of Judah: and he said, Hear, LORD, the voice of Judah, and bring him unto his people: let his hands be sufficient for him; and be thou an  HELP  to him from his enemies.

Deu 33:26 There is none like unto the God of Jeshurun, who rideth upon the heaven in thy  HELP, and in his excellency on the sky.

Deu 33:29 Happy art thou, O Israel: who is like unto thee, O people saved by the LORD, the shield of thy  HELP,  and who is the sword of thy excellency! and thine enemies shall be found liars unto thee; and thou shalt tread upon their high places.

Psa 20:2 Send thee  HELP  from the sanctuary, and strengthen thee out of Zion;

Psa 33:20 Our soul waiteth for the LORD: he is our  HELP  and our shield.

Psa 70:5 But I am poor and needy: make haste unto me, O God: thou art my  HELP and my deliverer; O LORD, make no tarrying.

Psa 89:19 Then thou spakest in vision to thy holy one, and saidst, I have laid  HELP upon one that is mighty; I have exalted one chosen out of the people.

Psa 115:9 O Israel, trust thou in the LORD: he is their  HELP and their shield.

Psa 115:10 O house o  Aaron, trust in the LORD: he is their  HELP   and their shield.

Psa 115:11 Ye that fear the LORD, trust in the LORD: he is their  HELP   and their shield.

Psa 121:1 I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my  HELP. 

Psa 121:2 My  HELP cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth.

Psa 124:8 Our  HELP is the name of the LORD, who made heaven and earth.

Psa 146:5 Happy is he that hath the God of Jacob for his  HELP, whose hope is in the LORD his God:

Isa 30:5 They were all ashamed of a people that could not profit them, nor be an HELP nor profit, but a shame, and also a reproach.

Eze 12:14 And I will scatter toward every wind all that are about him to HELP him, and all his bands; and I will draw out the sword after them.

Dan 11:34 Now when they shall fall, they shall be holpen with a little HELP:   but many shall cleave to them with flatteries.

 Hos 13:9 O Israel, thou hast destroyed thyself; but in me is thine HELP.

Personal note:
I grew up having a belief in God. I still do. I believe there is a heaven and a hell. I believe there is a spiritual world we cannot see but exists. I believe in God.I believe there is a devil. I believe in the Bible.  So, as a man that suddenly came to see myself as a submissive I needed to reconcile whether or not I could live as a submissive and still follow scripture.  I believe I can. I believe I can because there are 19 instances in which Ezer is the bigger,stronger, wiser dude helping the littlier, smaller, wimpy one. If that's the case then it sure seems like the woman God created to EZER Adam must also be of similar salt. She must be his equal and nothing less. And then if you look at the full context of the Ephesians passage and don't get caught up on the single verse you begin to see trends that need to be considered.  Further, one needs to understand that back in that world where swords and death were so common that it really was a 'might makes right' way of life.  Sounds like a bit of Isis world to me.  Women, because they are physically weaker had to rely on the strength of a man to sustain them. Yet God tells the strong brute to love her, respect her, to even die for her (that's the parallel of man loving his wife like Christ loved the church).  Man was told to leave home and GO to her (not she to him) and marry. There is much material for those women that are on the same fence I was to see how LOVING female dominance can have it's place within Christianity.  That's the conclusion I've come to and as a result I feel quite content living to please and love my Katie in the way I do and trust her to make decisions regarding sex, money, time and life on our/my behalf.  How am I not loving her by giving up the selfish part of me for her to decide, lead, and direct? Is that not love?

I'm Hers

Monday, May 18, 2015

Talking football

Since I’m taking a break from the blog I thought I’d write. If you follow along here you know I enjoy football and this week Mr. Tom Brady had the hammer fall on him, his beloved Patriots and his coach, Mr. Bellecheat. (Yea, I’m not a Patriots’ fan). 

What’s interested me has been much of the media take on this in light of the recent ‘I knocked out my girlfriend/Ray Rice’ incident some months ago. Why is it that the NFL suspends Ray for two games without pay but nails Tommy boy for four? That’s been the take of several broadcasters. Why is it that Brady gets fined another million and then, on top if it all, the league penalizes the organization by taking  two precious draft picks away. I mean, why be so harsh when there was no clear evidence and, in comparison, we even have video evidence of the knock-out blow by Mr. Rice. All Tommy did was let a few pounds of air out of some footballs after the NFL league officials checked them for proper inflation pressure so he could get a better grip.

What’s the big deal? Why was the hammer blow so heavy? Here’s my take:
Does the word integrity ring a bell anywhere within the millions that makes up the Brady empire? Yes, what Ray did was wrong. No doubt about it. But what Ray did was far different than what Tommy did. What Mr. Rice did was break the laws of our country. He committed a criminal offence and that offence meant his case was sent through the criminal court system. What penalty was rendered by way of the judge that ruled over his case was whatever our judicial system deemed appropriate.  What Tommy Boy did was not a crime but he violated the rules of the game. His was a crime of a different color. He cheated! He committed a crime, not by breaking a societal rule but by disobeying a league rule. His action was, and was justifiably so punished. I have no problem with what Commissioner Goodell levied (even if I don’t like the Patriots). What he did was violate the integrity of the game.  What good is the game if people go around cheating, trying to make the game more winnable and disregarding the parematers that all teams are expected to abide by? 

Tommy is not the first and I’m sure he won’t be the last. The league has suspended and fined many players for taking steroids (PEDs in recent years.  That too is cheating. It’s an attempt to gain an unfair advantage, not available to all.) Probably the most severe penalty was levied by MLB against Pete Rose,  arguably one of the greatest baseball players who ever played. All he did was bet on baseball (while he was coaching) and the league banned him from all association with baseball and has kept him from being eligible to enter Baseballs’ Hall of Fame.  

Tommy is a Pete Rose. They are one and the same. To all you patriots fans out there, you can butter this one any way you want but Tommy did wrong. He cheated. He lied about it. Then he lied about it again, and after the 82 page verdict came down he lied about it again and is still afraid to own up to it. Don’t believe me, well check out the premier ‘go-to’ source for truth: Saturday Night Live. It’s all right here for your viewing pleasure.

So what did I learn from all this: Tommy is rich. But Tommy has no balls. That’s a shame because if he had some, his wife Gizele could put a cage on the man and lock him up as her way of punishing him.

OK, enough writing. I’m going back on vacation

Enjoy your week.

I’m Hers

Thursday, May 7, 2015

New Blog and a little of this and That

I'm taking a break from writing for a bit. Work has been busy and spring is here and I want to get my fingernails dirty from working in the gardens rather than building up callouses on my finger tip pads.  So I'm out of here for a bit.  If you are missing me, well you have about 300 posts to re-read :)  If you really miss me, send me a comment and I'll respond. Really I will.

Just to make sure the waters remain calm, know that Katie and I are doing well. We've had some good talks. She isn't going to budge on the discipline issue and so I'm working through that and focusing on all I do have, like a 36-24-36 body! Well, not really but in my mind she's perfect and to those that know her, she's a very special person.

OK, so I got a comment and it led me to a blog. I read two posts and like what I read. And ..... it's written by a woman.... and she writes well so I'm wanted to share it with you in case you are unaware of it.  Like always, support her via your comments. Far too few sensible women take the time to blog about being the wife of a man in chastity. I don't know if she is a mistress, the head of her home, the boss-lady or what because I haven't read that much of her writing yet.  Here's the link. Enjoy!

I'm Hers