In order for a wife to adequately protect him, he must obey her. A parents role is to protect their children yet if a child refuses to listen and goes his own away against the advice of mom or dad they can't be protected. The same is true in a marital relationship. I believe the requirement of male obedience is a must. Contrary to many, living within the confines of what a wife allows is not a restriction, rather it is a gift; a gift she gives him. His gift to her is his service through his obedience.
Often when the lights have been turned out and Katie is snuggled up and lying on my chest or has told me to wrap myself around and spoon her from behind, she will tell me how safe she feels. In one way, my bigger, stronger body serves as a physical and psychological comfort to her. It’s how I can protect her. Yet I feel very cared for as her husband. She takes care of me. She protects me. She watches out for me. She guides our marriage. She lets me have both freedoms as well as giving me boundaries that I must live within. We mutually protect one another. I protect her from physical harm; Katie protects me from every other.