After the service I was approached by the husband of one of Katie's friends. Now this man is a former fighter pilot, engineer and now owns quite a large company. He is quite wealthy and also married to a really fun woman. He approached me and asked what was the religious background of the pastor. I told him I was pretty sure the man was a Methodist pastor and his comment to me was "that wasn't a Methodist speaking".
I wish I could have heard more of what she had to say and I wish I could have talked with her husband further to learn of his thoughts. However that never happened since we were interrupted by and the conversation shifted in a different direction. I really wish we could have talked more. I wonder if he and his wife's’ value system have changed over time or if they have adopted their own philosophy that differs from the traditional Christian mandate? My guess is she doesn't lead a femdom household but I am sure she never agreed to say she'd obey her husband. Likewise I'm pretty sure he knows how far he can safely step when it comes to voicing his opinions knowing his wife is not one to lay down and just do what she's told.
For these reasons I believe men are better served by relinquishing headship and following. When the wife doesn't let them have all they want (money, time, decisions, sex, etc) it turns their motivation inward rather than away to other interests. By not letting him have decision making or financial control she redirects his independence to that of dependent which draws him close and lessens his chance of drifting away emotionally or physically. When a woman is exalted to a position of charge, of headship, she determines the direction of the marriage, how time and money will be spent and how the home will function. As the leader of their marriage and family her values become his. Should she have the courage to demand he treat her as his most treasured 'possession', so many other aspects of their marriage simply fall into their proper place. After all, it is the woman that is the better nurturer and the one more likely to keep the family unit together as a cohesive unit. Men are more independent and although that trait has its positive aspects it doesn’t promote mutual bonding, communication and interaction – qualities all necessary for a healthy loving marriage.