Sometimes I feel rejected or ignored but that 'sting' lasts for only a short time and then passes. What I need to never forget is stepping back to keep the bigger picture in focus. What is ultimately important is not getting my way but making sure the relationship remains intact and that means me remaining obedient without exception.
I remember Cathy (Femdom 101) making a comment on a previous post where I noted I sit when using the toilet because that's what Katie wanted. Her comment was quite profound stating: if a man can't do the little things (like sitting as he's been told), he will never be able to do the bigger things.
Paul was encouraging others to not give up because there was something bigger at stake. The same is true with respect to our wife led marriage relationship. If we both abide by what we said we were committed to – me obeying and her leading – the bigger ‘prize’ of intimacy of increasing depth is possible.
There is a difference in making a decision when the ramifications of that choice only impacts her and making a decision that impacts the two of us. To do the latter requires a greater level of confidence and self-assurance. Deciding for the two of us implies she has the trust that I’ll support her. That is what Katie has finally achieved although it’s taken several years to get here.