When Katie and I decided to transition from our ‘normal’ relationship to a female led one things suddenly became quite awkward. We intentionally violated the principles upon which we had been taught. Men were expected to take charge. Women were to cook and maintained the kitchen. Men were the primary breadwinners. Women reared the children, etc.
Making that decision to live with Katie at the helm forced us to wrestle with a new reality. Like the widowed spouse who has to suddenly cope with life without a partner or the college student now living in a dorm free of mom and dad's influence or the newly married couple just returning from their honeymoon, life suddenly changed. In each of those situations (and in ours) life changed from what it had been. The environment was new, the expectations and responsibilities changed, ones role in life changed. That's what Katie and I wrestled with. We were forced to cope with a new reality - but it was only that - something to get use to and it wasn't a bad experience. I liked it and so did Katie. It's why she insists we will never go back - ever.
I receive lots of emails from individuals who are "new to this lifestyle". What they write about is their experience as they come to grips with this new way of relating. Sometimes they express excitement at the possibilities or reservations about those same possibilities. They write because they are not comfortable with where they are, where life is taking them, or where they wish life would take them. They write because they want reassurance or confirmation that what they are doing is OK, even good.