So, to my mistresses out there..... is it wrong for me to feel a little sad that she doesn’t' want to do that with me? Is it up to me to deal with the fact that she'll probably never ever say yes? See what I mean? Yes I’m not taking her to a holiday inn and driving up some well-traveled road along with 500 others and get of the car and say “wow, that’s pretty,” and then head down to go eat some sumptuous meal in the valley an hour later. My wish it to something 99% of the world doesn’t do. I want her to rough it with me, and in the process create a memory that will last forever. But it doesn’t look like this is going to happen and that saddens me. Am I wrong to grieve?
Tying this to my last post, can we agree that it's up to the submissive to comply with his mistress' wishes? When I ask questions like this, I wish I could force readers into stating either 'yes' or 'no'. If they did, I'd suspect the answer would be a resounding yes.
Can we agree that sometimes being told no, or having your ideas ignored or bypassed can sometimes be hurtful? Like several of you stated, men shouldn't expect to get all they want. It's not good for them. I'd go so far as to say it's not good for any of us to get all we want. To do so increases the probability of not appreciating what we do have and enjoying the things we have.
Yes I agree that for a wife-led-marriage to work it takes management on Katie's part and I'm not saying she doesn't manage. She is selfish with the time I spend away from her and that in itself is management. Just this week I asked if I could leave her for a few days to do something. After hearing me out I was told no. Now if we hadn't had company arriving the evening I’d return from this outing she might have given me the ok but instead she wanted me home. Things need to be done prior to family coming and so my time of fun was not to be. I call that good management. Her verdict wasn’t what I wanted. I wanted to get away but I also understood I’d have to obey whatever decision she arrived at. I also wanted to obey. I love when she leads overtly and this time she did.
From Katie's perspective, our relationship isn't at all about fun and games. Yes there are the times when she will tease me. Last week I was complaining about being locked all the time. Next thing I knew the bathroom door cracked open and I saw her hand pop through the small opening. She was holding her phone as the song "Mr. Lonely" by Bobby Vinton blared from the small speaker. I understood her point – which was for me to deal with being locked. We both giggled but the cage remained on.
To Katie, my submission is what it is. It’s a matter-of-fact realization of who I am to her. It’s not something she treats lightly or plays with. Her son and daughter stopped by the other morning. He commented how hungry he was and Katie offered almost immediately, "He (meaning me) is about to make breakfast. Do you want to stay and join us?" There was nothing kinky about her offer but the offer was clear regarding what I would do without question. I was not consulted and didn’t expect to be. I’m the cook; she isn’t. The family knows this to be true and Katie wasn't the least hesitant in offering my services. As it turned out, they were in a hurry and so declined.
My life is about service and loving and being practical. Katie is pragmatic if there ever was a pragmatic woman. The details of life and the home come first. Playing around by flaunting her dominance isn't something she seems to want to do or feels as if she must. We have an understanding. She loves me and she expects me to obey her. She also expects me to love and care for her and I think what she loves most about our femdom relationship is knowing I’m here to care for her. That is the phrase she shares most. "I love that you take care of me."
And isn't that want the submissive desires most; to care for the woman who has been placed before him to serve?